Monthly Motivation-“You is Kind, You is Smart, You is Important” The Help

Monthly Motivation for June of 2023.   I had recently finished the book “The Help”  When I found out there was a movie, I could not wait to see it. There were many times in the movie I found myself angry at the injustice and other times touched by the tenderness. The love in the…

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Divorce-The Ripple Effect-It Touches Everyone Involved

Blast from the past…I wrote this back in 2013 in The Beginning of my trauma.  I just thought I would re-post it after a bit of editing and updating.   Divorce affects everyone; even if you don’t want to believe it, it does.   ***** Written in 2013…but now adapted In church last week, the pastor spoke…

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Divorce and Pets “How Do I Keep My Dog?”

My dog is part of my family.  I have had Brodie for 11 years, and it would be painful to lose him in divorce proceedings.  I adopted Brodie from a shelter in 2009, my husband left me in 2013, and my divorce was final in 2017.  There was never a threat that I could lose…

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My Thoughts on an Article-It Takes Two and Other Nonsense by Donna Hayden

My Thoughts on an Article I found a great website called With Every Step by Donna Hayden.I found an article on the site called “It takes two and other nonsense.” Here is a quote I can relate to… “Do not tell me divorce takes two! I don’t care the reason for the divorce – it often…

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Monthly Motivation-Consider The Tree

Today I will consider the tree.            I said to the almond tree, ‘Friend, speak to me of God,’ and the almond tree blossomed. Nikos Kazantzakis But as for me, I am like a green olive tree in the house of God;  I trust in the loving-kindness of God forever and…

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What the Heck…What the Heck is Gaslighting?

Let’s continue with our series “What The Heck Is?” Today we are going to focus on gaslighting.   I had heard the term gaslighting, but I did not become curious about this term until my husband left me. Since then, I have researched the term and found it is pretty standard among narcissists and can…

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Ask The Divorce Lady: What Happens in the Afterlife to Those Who Intentionally Damage Others?

This is a series called “Ask The Divorce Lady.” ?The Afterlife? The Youtube Version Dear Divorce Lady, How do you envision the perfect afterlife for the narcissistic male who intentionally damages others without regard for the pain they leave behind? My AnswerTheir afterlife, if I were in charge, would look like this. All these so-called…

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Morning Motivation-When God Closes a Door He Opens a Window

I came across a quote the other day that I have always liked.   When God closes a door he opens a window.  Someone added to that quote which made it become even more clear… “When God closes a door, he opens a window, but it’s up to you to find it.” Jeannette Walls There…

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Betrayal Trauma Part III-What Are The Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma

This is Part 3 in a Series called Betrayal Trauma.  We have looked at Part 1-What is Betrayal Trauma and Part 2 The Causes of Betrayal Trauma?   This week we will look at a few symptoms that are commonly exhibited when you are a victim of this trauma. I remember the first time I listened to a…

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Helping You Through Divorce-A Divorce Website-“I’ve Moved On”

I know full well the confusion you find yourself in when headed into an unwanted divorce.  I thought I would share with you any seemingly helpful Divorce Related websites that I find.  I hope you are able to find helpful resources to assist you in your fight to get through and recover from your divorce.…

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