My Thoughts on “24 Ridiculous Divorce Lies…” by Dr. Karen Finn

As I was reading her thoughts I decided to choose 3 “lies” that I could relate to…

1-“It takes one year for every four years of marriage to get over your divorce” Karen Finn

I am so glad that this is a lie. Ā I was married for 37 years. Ā That means it would take me nearly ten years to recover. Ā It has been four years since my husband left. Ā I am doing much better. Ā Am I completely recovered? Ā No. Ā I am over him but not the betrayal. Ā That will take a bit more time, at least for me. Ā I think everyone’s journey is different.

2-“You’ll get over your divorce quicker if you just avoid thinking about it.” Karen Finn

In this section, Karen mentions health problems, anorexia, and anxiety attacks. Ā Yes, I struggled with all of the above in the beginning. Ā  The emotional pain was so intense that I did have issues with anxiety and depression, which I never had in the past. Ā One of Karen’s “24 lies about divorce” is that everyone who goes through a divorce will have depression. Ā Luckily that is not true. Ā Although, I am one who now knows how terrible depression is. Ā The upside is that I can now relate to folks, on some level, who struggle with depression.

I believe you do have to think your divorce and do your best to deal with it. Ā I think to move on you have to be honest with yourself and others. Ā For me, I hope I can use my experience to help people on the same path. Ā That is why I share my story to let people know they are not alone.

3- “There is something wrong with you if you feel like part of you died when your marriage ended” Karen Finn

I agree with Karen this is an absolute lie. Ā When you have been betrayed by the one that promised you and God that he would love you forever, it is like part of you died. Ā Here is my quote…

“Divorce is like a death but with intent” Ā KathieyV

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Please check out the rest of Karens list of “24 Ridiculous Divorce Lies..”Ā Check out her profile site on Your Tango.

Thank you Karen for your insight. Ā You are helping many of us as we navagate our new lives. Ā I am excited to move on to a better and happier life:-)