Beware the Narcissist
What is The Overt Narcissist?
Divorce often reveals harsh truths, including the reality that some people find themselves entangled with a narcissist. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t taught to recognize narcissistic behavior, so the signs and potential abuse can go unnoticed. That’s why I’m starting a series called Beware The Narcissist to help raise awareness about common narcissistic traits. Even if we’ve never been in a relationship with a narcissist, understanding these behaviors can help us identify and avoid toxic relationships in the future.
First off, how is an overt narcissist described? According to Choosing Therapy, an overt narcissist is…
“Overt narcissism is a type of narcissism marked by grandiose self-importance and lack of empathy. Overt narcissists often exaggerate their achievements, expect special treatment, and take advantage of others for personal gain. Others may perceive them as successful, but anxiety and low self-esteem lie beneath their false facades“.
Traits of an Overt Narcissist
- Tend to flaunt achievements and seek admiration.
- Possess an inflated sense of their abilities and importance.
- Feel entitled to special treatment and recognition.
- More likely to engage in affairs or serial relationships.
- Exhibit feelings of self-importance and self-absorption.
- Have a constant need for attention and admiration.
- Lack empathy for others.
- Believe they are superior to others.
- May appear caring but often have ulterior motives—wearing a mask to get what they want.
- Obsessed with their public persona.
- Often play the victim.
Possible Causes of Overt Narcissist
- Genetics
- Parenting Style (constantly praised and rewarded without any negative consequences)
- Childhood Trauma
- Cultural Factors
- Personality Factors
Overt narcissism is characterized by individuals who openly display their need for admiration and validation. They tend to talk incessantly about their achievements and expect praise from those around them. While they may come across as charming and confident, this charm often masks their deeper desire for constant affirmation. These individuals typically lack genuine empathy, making it difficult for them to connect with others on a sincere level.
An overt narcissist often uses people as tools to fulfill their own needs rather than forming authentic relationships. Their interactions are usually driven by self-interest, and any appearance of care is often a means to an end. This transparent form of narcissism can be easy to spot due to the combination of grandiosity, attention-seeking behaviors, and a disregard for the feelings of others.
It’s not easy navigating relationships with difficult people, especially when trust and care feel one-sided. Remember, your feelings matter, and taking steps to protect your well-being is important. Recognizing red flags and setting boundaries can help you create space for healthier connections. You deserve relationships where you feel truly seen and valued.
God Bless You on Your Journey
KathieyV