A Father’s Day Legacy: My View on Father’s Day as a Divorced Woman.

“The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children, and grandchildren is not money or other material things accumulated in one’s life, but rather a legacy of character and faith.”

Billy Graham

This is Father’s day weekend, and I find myself thinking about how important character is in the legacy our Fathers leave behind. Just what is character?  Wikipedia describes it this way…

“The concept of character can imply a variety of attributes including the existence or lack of  virtues such as empathy, courage, fortitude, honesty, and loyalty or of good behaviors or habits.”

I was listening to a sermon recently on adultery.  I have spoken to many women going through separation and divorce, and most of these cases involve infidelity.  A mistake is one thing, but when repeated over and over, which is the majority of the time, it is no longer a mistake but a character flaw. 

Here is what the pastor said happens in the wake of adultery…

*It causes untold hurt to the wife (or husband)

*It causes confusion to the children (regardless of their ages)

*It enables the laughter of those who disrespect God 

(gives atheists reason to further doubt the existence of God, and I witnessed this first hand)

*It grieves the heart of God

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,

faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”

Galatians 5:22-23a

Dear Lord, we all leave a legacy of some type behind.  Please help us, in all our imperfections, to leave a legacy to be proud of.  Not in the money we make or the things we own but in what matters, love for others and service to you.  Amen