I was married for most of my life. Everything I did and everywhere I went usually involved my husband or kids. Suddenly, with an unwanted divorce, I found myself without a partner beside me to experience life’s events and adventures. Does this mean I needed to stay home and let life pass me by? I say no!
I have been separated since 2013, and I still find it difficult, at times, to venture out on my own. I make myself because I know the importance of not isolating. Believe me when I say it is easy to talk yourself out of a solo adventure when you are an introvert.
It was Friday night. I had signed up weeks ago for a luau in my neighborhood and was excited at the prospect. As I sat at home dressed and ready to go, I questioned my decision. “Do I really want to go and sit by myself?” “I could stay home and just relax for the evening.” I won’t disappoint anyone because I am going alone, so I don’t have to go.” That is where I was wrong because I would be disappointing myself. I would miss out on an experience, an adventure. I would miss out because I would sit at home alone rather than enjoy a party. I would miss out on the opportunity to meet new people. With all that in mind, I decided to get off the couch and go to the luau, and I had a great time.
It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and embark on an adventure, especially when you go solo, but it is well worth it. Getting out solo or with a group can enhance your life and even change your perspective.
We need to be brave and fight the strong urge to stay home. The focus should not be on going alone but on the adventure, and we should embrace the experience. If you venture out solo and are uncomfortable, you can leave anytime.
Since my separation and divorce, I have been on several solo trips. Nearly everywhere I go, I meet nice people and enjoy seeing new places and trying new things. There is so much to experience, and I don’t want to miss out because I am single. After all, that would not be fair to me. So I force myself to get out there and enjoy my life. I hope you do too. If you have not attempted going solo yet, I suggest you try it.
As with all things in life, be safe and get out and enjoy your life!
God Bless,
KathieyV