I like this quote by Zsa Zsa Gabor. I can relate to its meaning now that I have experienced the depth of its truth.
If you find yourself in the throes of an unwanted and unexpected separation and pending divorce as I did, please hire an experienced attorney. Do this sooner rather than later. I regret taking my time in hiring my lawyer. It is easy to understand why we drag our feet. We may be traumatized, in a fog, no idea what to do when this situation confronts us. Sadly in our hesitation, we benefit the one who betrayed us. So stand firm in this horrible challenge, interview several attorneys, and hire the one that can help you.