The Pain….”Divorce is Like a Death But With Intent” KathieyV

Divorce is probably as painful as death”

William Shatner

“Divorce is like a death but with intent”


I know how you feel in the beginning.  The emotional pain is debilitating.  This pain can become physical which it did with me.  It has been nearly two years since I was blindsided by the “man” that promised to love me for better or for worse. He just walked out.  The pain is beginning to ease.  I have my good and my bad days.  I don’t miss him at all now that I have learned who he truly is.  I do miss our family unit.

My suggestions for you, if you are beginning this journey or even if you are years down this path, is to hold onto your faith, your friends, and the family members that love you.  You will get stronger.

“I call on the Lord in my distress, and he answers me”

Psalm 120:1

Get out and do something fun this weekend.  Believe me forcing yourself out, in the beginning, does help.  My daughter and I are going to a wine tasting tonight.  I can’t wait.


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Hi, I am a mom, nana, and writer living in the beautiful state of NC. I was married for 37 years and then blindsided by my husband, a former pastor. After decades he filed for legal separation without a word to me. It has been a rough road coming to terms with this new life that has been chosen for me. My blog is a place where I share "The Beginning," this place I found myself, a place I did not want to be. "The Journey," the things we need to do as we traverse this new road. Lastly "The Joy," and yes there is still joy to be found even after great pain. I have finished my first book "My Story My Divorce God's Promise, The Beginning." I am in the process of writing The Journey and The Joy. Please join me on my adventure to a new life. Always remember God's Promise "I will never leave you or forsake you."

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