The Beginning of Divorce: “A Woman is Like a Tea Bag”

This post is a blast from the past.  My thoughts as I was beginning my journey into the world of separation and divorce.  I place I did not choose to go but a road I was forced to travel.


I came across this saying at a local consignment store.  I find it to be a valid statement.  It is not that you want to be “strong,” but sometimes a need for strength is forced upon you, and many times by someone you thought loved you.  And this is the situation I now find myself after 37 years of marriage.  I am learning I am not alone.

My entire life has changed since my husband decided to leave me.  I had to spend thousands of dollars on professionals,  money that could have been used for the good of my family and a happy and bright future.  Sadly I had no say or choice in this matter.  Since my husband walked out, I have had the expensive pleasure of dealing with lawyers, digital forensics specialists, and private investigators.  The information gathered by these professionals paints a sad picture of misplaced trust and a stunning truthful awareness of what was hidden.

I continue to be “dipped in hot water,” and I continue to give it all to God knowing that strength and hope come from Him.  I continue to lean on my friends that offer support, prayer, laughter, care, and friendship.

If you are going through this too, know we are not alone.  We are sadly in the majority.

Keep the faith and like a very sweet old man used to say “keep looking up children”:-)

God bless!


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Hi, I am a mom, nana, and writer living in the beautiful state of NC. I was married for 37 years and then blindsided by my husband, a former pastor. After decades he filed for legal separation without a word to me. It has been a rough road coming to terms with this new life that has been chosen for me. My blog is a place where I share "The Beginning," this place I found myself, a place I did not want to be. "The Journey," the things we need to do as we traverse this new road. Lastly "The Joy," and yes there is still joy to be found even after great pain. I have finished my first book "My Story My Divorce God's Promise, The Beginning." I am in the process of writing The Journey and The Joy. Please join me on my adventure to a new life. Always remember God's Promise "I will never leave you or forsake you."

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