The Beginning of Divorce: “A Woman is Like a Tea Bag”

This post is a blast from the past.  My thoughts as I was beginning my journey into the world of separation and divorce.  I place I did not choose to go but a road I was forced to travel.


I came across this saying at a local consignment store.  I find it to be a valid statement.  It is not that you want to be “strong,” but sometimes a need for strength is forced upon you, and many times by someone you thought loved you.  And this is the situation I now find myself after 37 years of marriage.  I am learning I am not alone.

My entire life has changed since my husband decided to leave me.  I had to spend thousands of dollars on professionals,  money that could have been used for the good of my family and a happy and bright future.  Sadly I had no say or choice in this matter.  Since my husband walked out, I have had the expensive pleasure of dealing with lawyers, digital forensics specialists, and private investigators.  The information gathered by these professionals paints a sad picture of misplaced trust and a stunning truthful awareness of what was hidden.

I continue to be “dipped in hot water,” and I continue to give it all to God knowing that strength and hope come from Him.  I continue to lean on my friends that offer support, prayer, laughter, care, and friendship.

If you are going through this too, know we are not alone.  We are sadly in the majority.

Keep the faith and like a very sweet old man used to say “keep looking up children”:-)

God bless!