Your Truth Will Set You Free….Unless You Are Gaslighting!  

I talk with people often about divorce.  Many women and a handful of men I have spoken with  have experienced, what some call, gaslighting.  How I understand gaslighting, it is the twisting of the truth and invention of new untruths. I found an article that deals with the subject, “I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My…

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Ways to Reduce Stress. Try Reading.

Here is a quote in regard to reading and stress relief that I found online….. “Reading worked best, outshining other stress-reduction techniques like listening to music, taking a walk or having a cup of tea. Stress levels declined by 68 percent after participants read for just six minutes, leading Lewis to say, “Losing yourself in…

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Stress Relief When Going Through Divorce: Let’s Try Prayer

I am now about five years removed from the time my husband decided to leave without any attempt to heal whatever he thought was wrong and without any expressed warning to me.  He had made up his mind to leave, and that is what he did. Needless to say separation and divorce tend to lead…

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Ask The Divorce Lady: What Should I do With My Wedding Ring??

Ask the Divorce Lady What should I do with my wedding ring now that my husband has walked out on me? For me the answer was simple “Hock that puppy!” I don’t think there is any wrong answer to the question of what to do with a wedding ring when it no longer stands for the…

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My Divorce Story Page 1

I have decided I am going, to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help me God.  I am going to share it in segments here on my divorce recovery blog.  I have been silent way too long.  For today I am just going to share a photo and some…

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“Keep Looking Up Children”..Pain of Divorce “The Beginning”

“KEEP LOOKING UP CHILDREN”…..PAIN OF DIVORCE “THE BEGINNING” Let’s go back to the beginning of my nightmare. This is a memory from my journey through divorce. July 2013 Another bad day. I went through the motions at work and somehow managed to made it through the day. After work I forced myself, as I do…

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Morning Motivation, A Prayer from an Unknown Author

I found this prayer online.  I could not find an author associated with the words.  This heartfelt prayer, I believe, is for all of us going through the pain of separation and divorce. The prayer is divided into three segments and fits my theme of The Beginning, The Journey, and The Joy.  I think this…

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Divorce in the Media TV “Dr. Foster” Financial Infidelity

  As we get into episode 3 of season one of the TV show Dr. Foster, the theme turns to money. Just how much do we or did we know in our marriage regarding our money? Did we keep tabs on what was going on or did we just innocently trust that our significant other…

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My Story My Divorce, The Beginning The Deposition of Ex, “I Plead The Fifth”

Blast From the Past 2013 The Beginning Just what is the Fifth Amendment? I found one answer on Lawyers.com “Under the  Fifth Amendment to the US Constitution, anyone suspected of committing a crime has the right to remain silent when questioned by police or prosecutors.  In other words, if truthful answers to their questions would prove you committed the crime, you don’t have to…

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Morning Motivation. “God Holds Our Heart” Ephesians 3:11

This verse from Ephesians reminds me of the saying,  “Home is where the heart is” Here is what on online dictionary says about this, Proverb “your home will always be the place for which you feel the deepest affection,  no matter where you are.” “Home” is not always our physical house.  Our physical home may…

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