Divorce, Realization of a Dream Destroyed. Well, today, Feb 9, 2017, I am officially divorced. So how do I feel on this impactful day? I will try to verbalize it…
Did I ever in a million years predict that I would be divorced? No!
Did I choose to break a vow to someone I loved, or did love, or a vow to God? No!
Did I ever want to divide my family? No!
Did I ever want to put my children in a position for an increased chance of divorce, which is statically happening with divorced families? No!
Did I ever want to field questions from my grandchildren as to why they have multiple grandparents? No!
Did I want my children and grandchildren to say it is ok to throw a family member away anytime they want just because they are tired of them? No!
Did I want to fulfill my vow to God and my husband? Yes! Did I want children who could look at their parents and see love and commitment? Yes!
Did I want children that could look to their parents as an example of imperfect people trying their best to fulfill God’s plan and, through that example, believe that a commitment to God and each other is important? Yes!
Did I want grandchildren who could say that their grandparents took their vow to God and each other seriously? Yes! That family was important and, thus, found some stability in that family bond? Yes!
Did I want to retire with my husband and enjoy trips and wonderful times with my family? Yes!
What now?
I will always be honest. Ask me anything. I invite your questions.
I will move on to hopefully help others who have been betrayed.
I will love my girls and my grandchildren with all my heart.
I will continue to hold tightly to God, knowing that he is our only true constant in this life.
I will remind myself of God’s promise…”I will never leave you or forsake you.”
Thank you, God!
God Bless You on Your Journey!
Kathiey:-)
25 years down the drain—still dealing with divorce crap. My identity and spiritually is gone…where are you God??
Hi Sherry,
I am so sorry, and I know how hard it is to go through something like this. For me, it was 37 years of marriage and 10 years of recovery.
I believe God understands your question, “where are you, God?” I also think he has never left your side because he has promised to never leave us or forsake us and I held tightly to that promise, and I still do today. I did not and do not blame God. He was my strength in the awful pain of divorce. People have free will, and it was my ex’s will that created the pain, not God’s. I would love to hear more of your story. I will keep you in my prayers. Go to the contact page on the homepage and reach out…we can talk.
Hi Sherry,
I am so sorry, and I know how hard it is to go through something like this. For me, it was 37 years of marriage and 10 years of recovery.
I believe God understands your question, “where are you, God?” I also think he has never left your side because he has promised to never leave us or forsake us and I held tightly to that promise, and I still do today. I did not and do not blame God. He was my strength in the awful pain of divorce. People have free will, and it was my ex’s will that created the pain, not God’s. I would love to hear more of your story. I will keep you in my prayers. Go to the contact page on the homepage and reach out…we can talk.
I’m so sorry this has happened …
Me to and thank you for your reply and for caring:-)