Lawyers are a Girls Best Friend, Not Diamonds…Zsa Zsa Gabor

I like her quote, and I can relate to its meaning now that I have experienced the depth of its truth.

If you find yourself in the throws of an unwanted and unexpected separation and pending divorce as I did, please hire an experienced attorney.  Do this sooner rather than later.  I regret taking my time in hiring my lawyer.  It is easy to understand why we drag our feet.  We may be traumatized, in a fog, no idea what to do when this situation confronts us. Sadly in our hesitation, we benefit the one who betrayed us.  So stand firm in this horrible challenge, interview several attornies and hire the one that can help you.   Another piece of advice that I would give you is to do what your attorney tells you to do.  I followed most of my counsel’s direction, but I bulked at calling some people to task because I wanted to protect them.  If I could go back, and I wish could, I would hold them all accountable.

This process is not an easy one but take a deep breath,
put one foot in front of the other, and finish the task. Remember God is with you and will never forsake you.

God Bless You!


(Disclaimer:  This is what worked for me.  I am not a professional but speak only of my experience.  What worked for me may not work for you, but then again it might.)

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Hi, I am a mom, nana, and writer living in the beautiful state of NC. I was married for 37 years and then blindsided by my husband, a former pastor. After decades he filed for legal separation without a word to me. It has been a rough road coming to terms with this new life that has been chosen for me. My blog is a place where I share "The Beginning," this place I found myself, a place I did not want to be. "The Journey," the things we need to do as we traverse this new road. Lastly "The Joy," and yes there is still joy to be found even after great pain. I have finished my first book "My Story My Divorce God's Promise, The Beginning." I am in the process of writing The Journey and The Joy. Please join me on my adventure to a new life. Always remember God's Promise "I will never leave you or forsake you."

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