Divorce Recovery Book Club-When He Leaves by Kari West and Noelle Quinn

It has been nine years since my husband decided to leave our marriage.  In the turmoil and pain of the early days of this event, I remember I lost all desire to do anything that used to bring me joy. I no longer found joy in reading, cooking, or photography, which I had loved to do.  

Over the years, my joy has returned.  I now love to read, and I am back to reading every day and doing reading wrap-ups on YouTube.I will start reading books on divorce and divorce recovery and books on having fun, and self-help books.  

I decided to start a Divorce Recovery Book Club.  I believe that part of our recovery is reading books with insight on divorce and books that help us enjoy our lives.  

This first post is a blast from the past, written in 2014, a year after my husband left.  I don’t remember a lot about this book. I don’t even know where this book is, but I remember it being helpful in a difficult time.  Here is my post about the book When He Leaves by Kari West and Noelle Quinn.

I am reading When He Leaves by Kari West and Noelle Quinn.  Yes, it will be a while till I finish and that is ok.  I thought I would share a few quotes I found in my reading thus far, which struck a chord.
Quotes are in italics…

“You are not alone.  You belong to a sacred sisterhood, the wounded , the rejected, the betrayed.  You are seeing the truth, and in the horror of its light are shaken, battered and bruised.  But you do not give up.  You get onto bloodied knees and start to crawl forward again.  Like a drowning woman, you reach out for a lifesaver, anything floating”

(I know all too well how that feels)

“It would be better to die, you sometimes tell yourself.  You pray for courage to stand what you see.  You hope for the strength to get through the next moment, the next hour, the next day”

(At the beginning for me, I needed strength to get through the next second)

“Do you think he’s having an affair?” “No. Not him. He’d never do that.  We’re a Christian family”

(I had asked that very question several times in our marriage and responded the same way.  “No. Not my husband; he is a Christian and a pastor, and he would never cross that line)

“I wonder what else I don’t know?” 

“Everything in your life is on time.  Even this.  don’t hurry the future.  Live the present.  Even embrace your pain.  God will heal the past as you move forward one baby step at a time”Noelle Quinn”I will go before you and make the crooked places straight” Isaiah 45:2  

The scripture found on page 35 of the book

If you are traveling this road, I suggest you read this book.  The authors share the truths of what happened in their lives combined with the hope we have in God and the encouragement that we will make it through.

Stay strong.  

Hold onto your friends and your faith!


I have searched the house for my next book but have been unsuccessful.  I will have to order one on Amazon.  I will let you know what is on the agenda next.

God Bless You on This Journey!