Divorce in the News, Divorce and Genetics

News FlashDivorce is Genetic?I don't believe it!-2

I was reading an article that speaks of the possibility that divorce may be genetic.  I found the article on The Sacramento Bee Divorce May Be Genetic.  

The study focuses on families of divorce and the outcome of adopted children vs. biological children of the families going through a divorce. Most past studies have focused on the psychological aspects of divorce and the effects on children of divorce and their marriages.

You know what?  I don’t believe it.  I spent 37 years with a man who did nothing but condemn his father for the way he treated his mother.  His father cheated on her numerous times with more than one partner, left her, and then divorced her.  I was there during the initial days of her devastation; I remember the adverse effects on her and her children.  (They did remarry many years later).  Well, lo and behold even through the voiced negative views of what his father had done to his family my husband did much of the same to my family and me.

In my opinion, the fact that divorce could be genetic is hogwash.  It is a moral and ethical decision.  It is an action based on selfishness.  To say it is genetic is akin to all the folks that have been caught in the many sex scandals in the news.  They typically say “it’s not my fault, I have a problem, I think I will go to rehab and then everything will be ok.”  To say lying, cheating, and divorce is genetic gives the marriage destroyers nothing but a candy-coated excuse.  “Sorry, It’s not my fault.  It’s genetic”.  Hogwash!

News FlashDivorce is Genetic?I don't believe it!

I am not alone in my views.  In The Daily Mail, I found some opinions on this topic.  I thought I would share a few.

“Total Nonsense”.

“I cannot understand how they think it can be genetic. If there is a family with a laisse faire attitude to divorce any children will be brought up thinking its all no big deal. If a family is brought up to make effort to preserve a marriage, or not to marry in haste then any children will make more effort too”.

“Who employs these fools?”

“There was a time when to make a promise before God would not be broken”. (I do agree with divorce when cheating and abuse are involved, kv).

“Genetic? Genetic? That’s ridiculous! If there is a link it’s probably, learned behaviour like intolerance, disloyalty or something like that. Genetic? Like a rogue gene? Never.”

Interesting article.  I would love to know what you think.

KathieyV

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Hi, I am a mom, nana, and writer living in the beautiful state of NC. I was married for 37 years and then blindsided by my husband, a former pastor. After decades he filed for legal separation without a word to me. It has been a rough road coming to terms with this new life that has been chosen for me. My blog is a place where I share "The Beginning," this place I found myself, a place I did not want to be. "The Journey," the things we need to do as we traverse this new road. Lastly "The Joy," and yes there is still joy to be found even after great pain. I have finished my first book "My Story My Divorce God's Promise, The Beginning." I am in the process of writing The Journey and The Joy. Please join me on my adventure to a new life. Always remember God's Promise "I will never leave you or forsake you."

One thought on “Divorce in the News, Divorce and Genetics

  1. I think 🤔 it’s more likely that infidelity and a spouses drive towards such would be genetic. In all humans regardless of sexually. I think I have seen studies on that in the past. But I lean towards it being more of learned behavior and moral choice. Just saying 🙂

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